Ruminations of a BUSY to Balanced Mum
Have you seen our new definition of BUSY? It’s kinda out there – but I really feel like I’m not the only one challenging the concept of ‘busy’ and whether ‘balance’ is an achievable reality.
I’ve read a number of articles recently – all with the ‘busy’ or ‘balance’ theme. Martha Beck’s article Making Time for Nothing was inspirational (you HAVE to read it – it gives you great insight into the importance of making time for nothing and suggestions on what you can do with any spare time you have – to make room for nothing). In it Martha says:
Generally speaking, a packed schedule is seen as the sign of a happenin’ life; empty time is for losers. We don’t say things like “That day won’t work for me, I’ve got a lot of empty time scheduled” or “Listen, Bob, I need to cancel. Some empty time just came up.” Part of the reason is our culture: According to the Western perspective, filling every moment with “value-added” activities is a sign of virtue and significance.
Mia Freedman from Mamamia wrote a great article titled Not everyone wants work/life Balance. Mia notes “Sometimes the pressure to be balanced can itself become a burden. I know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed – it’s my default state – but at certain times in your life, balance is an impossibility.”
I tend to agree with her.
Take the chaos of earlier this year for us. Within a period of seven weeks we went to Fiji for a holiday, all got a tummy bug, came home to immediately put our house on the market, sold the house, moved house, put Mr 6 in hospital a week after the move to get his tonsils out and then returned nine days later with complications – all the while juggling work and our own crumbling sanity.
Balance? What balance!
I could have done with some of what Martha calls ‘empty time’ – without a care in the world whether anyone thought I was a loser or not!
I have written numerous posts about reducing the ‘busy’ and moving toward the ‘balance’ - The Joy of Nothing Planned and Finding My Inner Zen – In 10 Minutes a Day to name a few. My theory is that if you want balance – which I’m happy to say I do! – you will strive for it. Whether that means finding ‘empty time’ or reducing the overwhelm, you will need to focus on it. Make it a conscious choice. Take responsibility for it.
And if you’re like me you will keep searching for it regardless of what’s going on in your life – because ultimately balance is what will make you feel alive, together, connected.
So call me a loser. Tell me it can’t be done. But I will continue to strive for ‘balance’.
And maybe, just maybe, help you along the way.
Unless you’ve got other ideas?
Until next time, happy organising!